Do you often feel down when you think how your life is going? If you do, then it's time you change your attitude towards life! What I mean is, perhaps, you're too focused on what's going wrong for you instead of what's working for you. The quote of the 'half empty or half full glass' is apt here, its a way of perceiving a situation.
'If you can't change your fate change your attitude.'
Fortunately, attitude is something you can work on and having the right attitude is powerful. For example, the way you approach success and failure, with the right attitude it can make a huge difference because you will see failure as a learning curve and success as a working formula. The attitude is to meet both circumstances in a scientific way. Hard isn't it! That's what we're aiming for.
'Attitude is a little thing that makes a big difference.' Winston Churchill
You may have noticed that the happiest people in life are the optimistic ones. They are great people to hang around with because they are usually very inspiring and come up with funny stories and big ideas. I like to surround myself with people like that.
'Your attitude is like a price tag, it shows how valuable you are.'
On the other hand, you may have met people that likes to complain, everything sucks, and it is always others fault. You may hear them recounting their misfortunes to anyone that will listen just to justify their position or disposition in life.
'A bad attitude is like a flat tyre. You can't go anywhere until you change it.'
So, it's well worth developing a good attitude my friend because let's face it, we will undoubtedly meet many difficult situations over the years. But it is how well we cope with those situations that will determine our grit.
'Don't allow your attitude to stand between your happiness and you.'
A prisoner of attitude?
Change it to gratitude
Feel the magnitude
Never let a bad day
Turn into groundhog day
Change it around
Pump up the sound
Jump up and down
Say 'I don't give a damn!'
Feelings and emotions are natural part of the human make up. So, why talk about it? Because it plays an important role in communication to ourselves. We can either run with it destructively or learn to use it constructively.
"To live well, we cannot run from our feelings but instead we must learn how to integrate them into our life and let them guide us."
We know that depressing feelings can get us down and escalate to more depression because we attract depressing memories, situations etc. Why do we let it take hold of us? Sometimes we may relish in nostalgic memories which even though depressing, in some weird way also comforting. Other times we may not know how to deal with overwhelming emotions so we ride the waves until it passes. But if we learn how to harness our feelings, we can use them creatively. Some people who suffers from clinical depression have written the most beautiful poetry, lyrics, comedies etc. I, myself, wrote most of my poetry whilst recovering from a period of long illness.
"The main factor in many form of creativeness is the life of a human spirit, that of the actor and his part, their joint feelings and subconscious creation." Constantin Stanislavski
Feelings communicate two things to us, what feels good and what feels bad. The labels we give to any one feeling falls in either or between these two categories. Our natural state is one of feeling good so when we feel bad, its telling us we need to re-align ourselves with the feeling good vibes. We have a choice, even if we think we don't we are still making a choice, so make the right one.
"I pay no attention whatever to anybody's praise or blame. I simply follow my own feelings." Wolfgang Amadeus Mozart
My friends, you have the potential to feel happy every waking moment creating your best life. A good book I recommend everyone reads is Following your bliss by Joseph Campbell. You can listen to the audio book on YouTube for free.
"God is not present in idols. Your feelings are god. The soul is your temple."
Feelings nothing more than feelings
I hear this song playing
What does it mean?
What is it saying?
Feelings mean more to me
Life to me
A roller coaster to me
Even more, exhilarating to me
I have been thinking about my own nature of understanding lately and my behaviour towards others. It led me to the word compassion. I think this is what is lacking in the world.
"Respect all manners of man regardless of their station in life. Compassion is one of the greatest virtues". Anthony Cermona
First we need to cultivate compassion for ourselves before we can have compassion for others. When we are hard on ourselves to tend to be hard on others too. We start to judge others' behaviours and the rights and wrongs of the world. It is not always easy to be compassionate, I know because I start to get irritated when I hear someone complaining about their life when they are not willing to anything about it. When I should understand that every individual is exactly where they are according to their experience of life. Just because I have moved on or expanded in that respect does not give me the right to criticise another for how they feel.
"When you have learned compassion for yourself, compassion for others is automatic." Henepola Gunaratanai
I need to keep reminding myself of compassion when dealing with people on a daily basis. I don't always get it right because telling people how to solve a problem seems to be my first nature instead of just listening. But I am happy to realise when I haven't been just with an individual because I know I'm thinking more with compassion, and maybe next time I will catch myself before the injustice.
"I think we learn more from the most imperfect relationships - things like forgiveness and compassion." Andrea Thompson
Lets be more aware of how we feel, speak and act so that we can incorporate compassion in our interaction with ourselves and others my friend.
"Love and compassion are necessities, not luxuries. Without them humanity cannot survive." Dalai Lama
I can see in your eyes
Although, you lie
I can tell
All is not well
But I'm here
with a listening ear
To lighten the load you bear
S R Lore
What does it mean to be truly present? We sometimes fool ourselves into thinking that we are present when talking to an individual when our mind is running elsewhere. Or when spending time with our loved ones when we are continually distracted by our phones, messages and the myriads of things that keep us occupied nowadays. These examples indicates presence of body but not mind.
"When you love someone, the best thing you can offer is your presence. How can you love if you are not there." Nhat Hann
An example of presence liken to falling in love. When we fall in love we give that person our undivided attention, and at that state we forget everything else but that moment. That exhilaration can only be felt in that moment.
"Empathy is full presence to what's alive in the other person at this moment." John Cunningham
Though, we are not falling in love everyday we can surely still feel like that at any given moment. If you consciously stop thinking at this present moment and look around you, you will feel total calm within you. You may even notice things that you may have never noticed before even though you've been in this very place many times. This peacefulness is accessible to you at all times and its free.
"The more clearly you understand yourself and your emotions, the more you become a lover of what is." Baruch Spinoza
I know it is hard to be fully conscious at all times because the way our society works, bombarding us with things we should be doing, information overload and not to mention that we are constantly multi-tasking , but the more you practise it the more beautiful moments you will be creating.
"Be where you are otherwise you will miss your life." Buddha
A really good book to read and can explain presence is called The power of now by Eckhart Tolle. Be present until my friend.
You got to be present
To know your essence
You got to stop the noise in your head
To get ahead
Your presence is the best present
Anyone will ever receive
So, let no moment go unperceived
I guess I should have started my blog with this topic as my blog is about developing the self, however, I tend to write in a random fashion because I feel everything I write about is with regards to developing the self. The reason I find developing my inner-self fascinating is because the more I study my nature the more I realise my potential is unlimited. As a human race we deserve to know our full potentials so that we can live a happy and fulfilled live.
"If you are under the impression you have already perfected yourself, you will never rise to the heights you are no doubt capable of." Kazuo Ishiguro
The only way we can bring changes is by working on ourselves, by reading books that has the abilities to really make us think, empower and move us to action because we are powerful beings. Courses and workshops are also good to go on because you meet like-minded people. You never know when you might meet someone that can help you make a difference.
"For the best return on your money, pour your purse into your head." Benjamin Franklin
Reading the right books will open up your mind and heart to reveal your true self and once you open that door you will never go back because you will feel power within you. I know they say that knowledge is power but knowledge of yourself is more powerful.
"If you want to lead an extra-ordinary life, find out what the ordinary do and don't do it." Tommy Newbury
Learn from authors and teachers who have taken the journey, a lot of wisdom are hidden between pages of books you may not have even considered reading. You don't need to agree with everything an author writes, only what resonate with you because you will know the truth when you read it, they're like little nuggets of wisdom. Despite our different experiences in life when we go deep within there are no differences, there is only one truth, unity, love and the need to expand into more.
"let him who would move the world first move himself." Socretes
A good book to read is The Untethered Soul by Michael A Singer. Happy reading my friends, until next time.
I need to know myself
Reaching for selected books from the shelf
I'm on a continuous quest
And I never rest
Cos I know I'm forever demanding more
Evolving into powerful oneness
Reaching deep and that's priceless
The word faith conjure up a nice warm, safe, solid feeling for me. The meaning in the dictionary is having trust or confidence in someone or something. Usually we link faith with our religion which I think generally mean we believe. But if we genuinely trusted in in God or the higher power why would we still live in fear of the future, whats happening around the world and stressing over little things on a daily basis.
"Faith is seeing light with your heart when all your eyes see is darkness"
On my spiritual quest, I realised that faith is the foundation of everything. Without faith you have no hope, you have nothing. It's like building a house on quicksand. Jesus said, "if you have faith of the size of a mustard seed you will say to this mountain, "move from here to there," and it will move; and nothing will be impossible for you", Matthew 17:20.
"Let your faith be bigger than your fear!"
One thing I have learnt on my quest is that faith is the only action, if I can call it that, we must take because when we have faith all actions are inspired actions. Never doubt yourselves. if you have doubt then trace the doubt back to its origins and try to decipher if the doubt is founded or just one of your old beliefs or fear haunting you. Turn a new leaf and decide to have faith in all you do, in all you think today!
"Faith sees the invisible, believe the unbelievable, and receives the impossible." Corrie Ten Boom
Have faith in yourselves my friends don't put it on anyone else. "keep examining yourselves to see whether you are continuing in the faith. Test yourselves! You know, don't you, that Jesus lives in you? Could it be that you are failing the test? 2 Corinthians 13:5
I hold Steady in my faith
never roam around
In search of a sign
I am a living proof
That faith is in mind
The greater the faith, the greater the mind
My father says, "have faith in thyself
And there will be no mountains you cannot move."
I now move mountains with my mind
I am a person who is into self development and I am always learning and striving to be the best of myself. I like to empower others to make a difference in theirs and others lives. I also like to express myself creatively through poetry. "I'm an architect, of myself...."